Gopher, Squirrel, Chad, and Carla are all volunteers. They do not officially represent any institution that may be mentioned.
He sat alone.
His eyes fixed on a point on the other side of the room, and
only he could tell us.
This was a group visiting situation, and Gopher and I had
arrived at the spot and began visiting with the various residents that were
waiting for us at our standard spot.
His gaze shifted to Gopher, and an observant nurse noticed.
She leaned over and asked if he wanted to visit the dog. Nothing, no
affirmation nor was there a refusal. She did what many a caretaker has done,
and said why don’t push you over. He is very gentle and if you do not wish to
pet him, you do not have to. Once again she was met with silence, and no
acknowledgment.
As she wheeled him over his gaze stayed on Gopher and as he
got closer his head moved for the first time so he could watch him. There was
no fear or apprehension in his gaze, he was just focused.
Gopher got up and
separated himself from the group that was pining over him and went to sit by
the chair. The gaze followed.
As he arrived at the chair, he sat down and leaned into the
chair. Fortunately the caretaker had set the brakes. The gaze was still upon
him and as he leaned a sparkle in the eye of his new patient greeted him.
His hand rose gently with a light tremor, he reached down
and began stroking his side. Gopher leaned in harder, and everyone watched as
our new guest and Gopher became the only thing in the room of interest.
The moments passed, while the two new friends became better
acquainted. Gopher returned his gaze with the affectionate brown eyes I have
had the privilege seeing so many times, staring back in the man’s now sparkling
eyes as they had a silent conversation.
“You are very handsome” the man said to Gopher barely
audible to the crowd now watching.
A gasp from a few spectators, behind me broke the focus on the
interaction and the room fell silent again.
He started telling Gopher the story of his life. The dogs he
had, his parents, his wife, and their kids.
He reflected heavily on the last
few years, how slowly things had started being taken away from him.
His ability to sleep through the night, as he was awoken by
the need to pee, or the soreness of his aching muscles.
His home where they raised their kids, because they could no
longer afford to care for it, and no longer had the ability.
Being able to hit the open road, and how he missed taking
off on adventures with his wife to see something new.
Most recently his wife, one night they were there in their
apartment, saddened but had spent the evening talking about their blessings.
Then he awoke in the middle of the night, needing to pee, and when he came back
he realized he was alone and she was gone.
How after the services the world kept moving, but he just
stopped, and then he was here.
He stopped telling his story and continued to pet Gopher.
After a few minutes, he asked the nurse if she could take
him back to his room.
Then said, “I think I am ready to see the doctor now, can he
come by?”
The nurse and him started talking about the next steps, as
they wheeled off in the distance. Gopher had returned to his group and was even
more surrounded with hearty pets, and even a few kisses.
Another resident placed her hand on my shoulder. “He has not
spoken since he arrived, not in group, not to anyone, not even in the night
when some others choose to speak when they think no one is listening. He has
not said a word. Gopher is amazing.”
I smiled and said the same thing I have said a hundred
times, “He is happy to help.”